Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Photo taken by me @ Ocean Beach in San Francisco
While writing for Today.com through the beginning of last year, I had a series of short articles on topics related to living a happy and contented life. I've decided to re-introduce this series on this blog. Now mind you I am not an expert on these subjects, however, these topics were written based on my own experiences. Some of you who know me from Today.com have already seen some of these articles yet with so many new readers I wanted to again share them with all of you.
Being independent is seen sometimes as being different in today’s society. If we find ourselves taking a different path than others we are seen as the “odd” one. Yet do we really want to have someone else thinking for us or making decisions for us because it’s the popular thing to do? Just because your friends are taking drugs or drinking and driving does that mean that we have to adhere to that same behavior? In high school and college I know that many of us were faced with these situations. Many of us followed what everyone else was doing because it was the “cool” thing to do.
Many people also follow the guidance of others in relation to what they do for a living. We may want to become a writer or musician yet we are guided towards another career by well meaning people who decide they should do our thinking for us. It takes courage and an immense amount of self-confidence to think for ourselves and go it alone. It is so much easier to follow the pack than take that solitary step, yet a journey alone provides us the freedom we need to grow and become who we were meant to be. We can only find our true self by taking the road less traveled.
Here are some suggestions:
1. Believe in what your heart tells you to do. Following others in what they think and do only allows you to ignore your true self. Think for yourself even if it differs from others.
2. Let go of expectations. Let others be who they are. Even if you do not like their choices or have the same beliefs, allow them to be an individual and independent of anyone else.