Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Thursday Two Questions Meme - Friendships


Friends come in all colors, shapes and sizes. We choose friends in which we feel a connection. There's the saying where friends come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. We, I think always feel that our friends will be there for a lifetime. However that is not always the case.

Misunderstandings cause rifts in any relationship including friendships. If there is true caring and love between you and your friend you can get through difficult times. Respect and unconditional love are two of the most important aspects in any friendship or relationship. Unconditional love is difficult at times but when we can shed our expectations this rare love can be achieved. Of course, if we have the need to be right all the time and cannot shed expectations of others, the friendship will die.

Losing a friend you love due to a misunderstanding is one of the most painful things you can experience. It's like a death. The anger, the grief, the insurmountable sadness etc... is devastating. However it happens and when it does, we need to learn how to move on and get through the painful loss.

My two ?'s are:

1. Have you ever lost a friend due to a misunderstanding?

2. If you have, were you able to repair the friendship?

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Just a note that although no one came up with the two correct answers on last week's blogpost, Ann over at
Ann's Snap And Edit came the closest and will receive a Sony Holland cd. The answer is a Banksia Speciosa or Showy Banksia with the macro taken at the SF Botanical Gardens. Thanks to all of you for your comments.



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12 comments:

Unknown Mami said...

I've lost a friend to something, I'm not sure if it was a misunderstanding. We were not able to repair the relationship.

Ann said...

yes I have lost a friend to misunderstanding.

I wish that I could say that the friendship was repaired but sadly it wasn't.

Poetic Shutterbug said...

Mami, thanks for stopping by and commenting. It's tough to lose a friend over any situation.

Ann, It is very sad especially when the friendship cannot be saved. Thanks.

Self Sagacity said...

1) I have and I am sure it was all my fault. ;-) My friendships are few, but I am a magnet to colorful characters that are not very reliable. I have since tried to be very careful, it still doesn't matter.
2) Only one, due to the person's no show. I am still able to continue the friendship but very casually. So the degree has changed.

betchai said...

1. Almost did, several times. My first experience was in elementary and she was my best friend that time.
2. Thankfully, they were all repaired.

SquirrelQueen said...

Friendship does take work, I don't think everyone realizes how much.

Sadly yes, one was caused by a third party.

All but one of the friendships were repaired.

Annabella said...

I too have lost a friend through a misunderstanding and we weren`t able to repair the fall out. A birthday card posted was returned torn up! Can`t say I didn`t try.

Icy BC said...

I have very few close friends and thankfully I didn't loose them through misunderstanding, but through the difficulty of time keeping in touch, and life stands in the way with responsibilities!

~sjts said...

I have lost two friendships because of one another's expections of the other person. Loss is loss and there is always grief.

Bossy Betty said...

1) Yes
2) No

It still hurts. I can't even talk about it.

Teresa said...

Question 1:
Our disagreement was about money. She wanted to borrow $5,000 to pay for a couch she bought on time. Hubby said no way. I felt bad until another friend asked me how much my own couch was worth, which put it back into perspective!

Question 2:
We don't talk now, and we used to see each other or talk on the phone several times a week. It doesn't bother me, I've moved on.

JamericanSpice said...

I can't remember losing a friend over a misunderstanding and it's likely because I've only had one best friend. I had people who thought I was their best friend but I was there to listen to their problems and such but I didn't share my life because I knew they couldn't be trusted.

Odd huh?

Aloha!